tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post2444107833192660624..comments2023-10-14T18:34:30.879+02:00Comments on Lost in Arles: The Charm of a French Country Wedding, part twoHeather Robinsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-78298325786153731432013-07-21T12:57:47.583+02:002013-07-21T12:57:47.583+02:00Hmmm,Heather...I was't joking....folks (at lea...Hmmm,Heather...I was't joking....folks (at least in New York City) do really have "divorce parties" these days.<br /><br />I gather that this goes on regularly in circles where the couple met through "work"....the wife is a Manhattan corporate attorney with a degree from the Uiversity of Chicago and the husband is a real-estate developer in the Hamptons....or some dynamic such as that, in which it's a GIVEN that they and all of their "friends" will, like it or not, continue knowing and dealing with each other on an almost daily (if purely commercial/professional) basis.<br /><br />It reminds of when the authors of "The SilverPalate Cookbook) parted ways.....the LAST thing you were going to hear from either of their mouths was any gossip about the acrimonious (as it turned out to be)split or regarding each other.<br /><br />That would be Bad For Business, you know....and they had a LOT of jointly owned business ventures, to say the least. They were quite practical about the matter (for which I don't at all intend to criticize them; it saves everyone else a lot of worry and trouble)<br /><br />Oh, well, I'm very glad to have gotten out of that world (not that I was ever so remarkably "in" it) long before "divorce parties" came into vogue.<br /><br />---daviddavid terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009130338123162371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-8015057995828050582013-07-20T20:53:55.301+02:002013-07-20T20:53:55.301+02:00My dear David, I kept waiting for you to write &qu...My dear David, I kept waiting for you to write "JUST KIDDING" in one of your glorious turnarounds like you do from time to time. I find this so disconcerting that I can't quite find the words to respond--whether in "reaaaaally?" kind of laughter or dispersion. I know you will understand that I am at a loss! <br /><br />Although this has nothing to do with divorce, the concept reminds me of going to an opening of the brilliant James Nachtwey's photos---but everyone was swanning around with champagne amidst the photos of utter sadness and the horrors of war. It was one of the big reasons that launched our leaving Paris.Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-86234410345925603032013-07-20T12:48:09.321+02:002013-07-20T12:48:09.321+02:00Actually, Heather?....I wasn't referring to fo...Actually, Heather?....I wasn't referring to folks holding ceremonies/celebrations for divorces.......but the fact is (I read about this a short while back in the New York Times) folks ARE doing exactly that. I kid you not.<br /><br />Apparently, this goes on among youngish-middle-aged & minimally-middle-class (large parties aren't cheap) folks who sort of just assume that everyone gets married at LEAST twice in this life....and they want to make it clear that their feelings about the divorce are perfectly "amicable", etcetera.....so,let's just have a "divorce party", invite all the friends and family, and make it clear that we're, actually, pretty excited (!) to be moving on with our individual, new&improved lives...no hard feelings!!!,,,no one needs to worry!!!<br /><br /><br />I don't know...I find the whole notion.....creepy? I'm scarcely some hidebound, ultra-orthodox (I'm an Anglo-Cahtolic, basically) advocate of perpetuating a painful relationship...but, simultaneously, I'm taken aback by the notion of acting as though a divorce were something done lightly....as we all just do from time to time?.....do they play Cole Porter's "It Was Just One of Those Things!" as background music at these events????<br /><br />If I were invited to one, I wouldn't go,simply because I don't think I could carry off acting, for several hours, casual about the matter... "Oh well....these things just HAPPEN, you know? And we're still Good Friends!!! More bubbly, anyone???".<br /><br />So, yes, I have turned into my own grandmother (in terms of both her attitude regarding sacraments and a nose that becomes more prominent with each passing year). I should emphasize that she was divorced (the first in our family) in her early thirties and never re-married. As far as I'm concerned a divorce is a sometimes quite necessary, but inevitably solemn event....I can't imagine celebrating one.<br /><br />----david terry<br />www.davidterryart.comdavid terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009130338123162371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-27309934125387295602013-07-18T18:00:22.207+02:002013-07-18T18:00:22.207+02:00I do believe they have started as they mean to car...I do believe they have started as they mean to carry on, Lisa. And I am delighted to have you here! Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-67848202262868626122013-07-18T17:59:24.811+02:002013-07-18T17:59:24.811+02:00I love that story, David. I love that story, David. Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-21817427947948488452013-07-18T17:58:23.505+02:002013-07-18T17:58:23.505+02:00You are a wonderful writer, Loree. Don't let t...You are a wonderful writer, Loree. Don't let those doubts tell you otherwise...although, come to think of it, every writer I know has doubts all the time!!! Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-51427812217048907312013-07-18T17:57:22.993+02:002013-07-18T17:57:22.993+02:00Absolutely!! A good reminder! And THANK YOU!!!!Absolutely!! A good reminder! And THANK YOU!!!!Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-5815055317032114972013-07-18T17:56:47.824+02:002013-07-18T17:56:47.824+02:00So happy that you stopped by Penelope! And "a...So happy that you stopped by Penelope! And "ain't that the truth"! Sorry to hear that is not the case only in France...<br />Thank you for your beautiful last post,<br />xo,<br />HHeather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-75388434649909474882013-07-18T17:55:35.637+02:002013-07-18T17:55:35.637+02:00You are welcome, joyful! You always bring the same...You are welcome, joyful! You always bring the same to mine when you stop by. :)Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-56464896461660597092013-07-18T17:54:57.072+02:002013-07-18T17:54:57.072+02:00Thanks Sister--it was truly a last minute add on! ...Thanks Sister--it was truly a last minute add on! What was I thinking?? Luckily our hostess had remover for my misses.Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-15069551579406951862013-07-18T17:54:03.284+02:002013-07-18T17:54:03.284+02:00PS. And so folks are holding ceremonies/celebratio...PS. And so folks are holding ceremonies/celebrations for divorces these days in the States? Wacky Americans.Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-75133123210124978482013-07-18T17:53:12.324+02:002013-07-18T17:53:12.324+02:00David! Somehow I missed this while we were out in ...David! Somehow I missed this while we were out in the woods (no that isn't a metaphor for something, we really were and the internet was sketchy, that is why I am just getting caught up now) and it made me bark with laughter. Shame on you for scaring the dogs! <br />I have no IDEA what Laurent and Nathalie will make of this however...Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-27110337929301027992013-07-18T17:49:27.331+02:002013-07-18T17:49:27.331+02:00Gallivanta, sorry for the delay but you know what?...Gallivanta, sorry for the delay but you know what? I have no idea! Remi said it is the traditional thing to do. Why not? It is lovely!!Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-59579146143173095792013-07-18T17:48:44.709+02:002013-07-18T17:48:44.709+02:00And what a gorgeous couple they made as well!!!!And what a gorgeous couple they made as well!!!!Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-90413286214603860592013-07-18T17:48:18.254+02:002013-07-18T17:48:18.254+02:00I think so too, David. I know that they have been ...I think so too, David. I know that they have been reading the comments but I will make sure they get that. <br /><br />PS. I think that you know I am a Yeats fan, yes?Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-84101088272175088852013-07-18T10:06:17.541+02:002013-07-18T10:06:17.541+02:00Love, fun and oysters! I hope they have started as...Love, fun and oysters! I hope they have started as they mean to carry on :-) Congratulations on a fine wedding and a fine wedding post! Lisa Southardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09711376747848601409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-28859941176803396262013-07-17T12:45:07.759+02:002013-07-17T12:45:07.759+02:00AOTHER WEDDING ANECDOTE:
Not that this necessaril...AOTHER WEDDING ANECDOTE:<br /><br />Not that this necessarily has anything specifically to do with your friends' wedding Heather,but?....<br /><br />A friend of mine (he's 63) has just left to attend the funeral of his 87 year old, favorite uncle, who lived in Boston and died quite suddenly/unexpectedly of a stroke (he was mowing his front lawn at the time) a few days ago.<br /><br />Apparently, the aunt died twenty-some years ago, and the uncle never re-married. My friend, in speaking of him over the telephone to me, said "Oh, no....he had a nice life... he raised parakeets, worked in the garden, and went to a wedding at least once every week".<br /><br />Thinking that was a bit odd (there was a period when I seemed to go to a wedding every week, but lasted for only about two years, just after graduating from college...I wasn't in my 70's & 80's, to say the least).<br /><br />Turns out the uncle just LIKED weddings. He'd read the papers, listen to neighborhood gossip, read local church bulletins, find out where the nearest wedding was....and just GO to it...sometimes two per week. Apparently, he was never turned away, and, for decades, he'd attend the receptions afterwards. I guess no one's going to tell a septuagenerian (sp?) widower that he'd better get his wrinkly-old ass out of their church, even in hard-nosed Boston.<br /><br />I was told "Oh...he made a lot of young friends that way...they'd stop by to visit him later....he was the nice old guy who just showed up at their wedding...you would have liked him..."<br /><br />I hope I don't need to explain why I find that a lovely, charming anecdote. I told my friend "Oh....there's a wonderful short story in there somewhere."<br /><br />Best of all good wishes to your friends, Nathalie and Laurent---<br /><br />david terry<br />www.davidterryart.comdavid terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009130338123162371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-70011534688383604702013-07-16T20:34:18.316+02:002013-07-16T20:34:18.316+02:00Hello everyone!! For those of you checking back in...Hello everyone!! For those of you checking back in wondering, "Um, where is SHE?" well were outta town and I mean so far out of town that there was no internet to be had--whoohoo! So I apologize for not responding earlier and I love all of these wonderful messages--as always! But these are especially important as I happen to know that the happy couple has been very touched by them. :)<br />More soooon! Heather Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316279029849503437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-36685315409574886592013-07-16T18:25:24.168+02:002013-07-16T18:25:24.168+02:00those white r o s e s....
divine. those white r o s e s....<br /><br />divine. teamgloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10818073291595571546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-73822324462419491132013-07-16T09:56:17.085+02:002013-07-16T09:56:17.085+02:00Oh I love a good wedding! And that spread makes th...Oh I love a good wedding! And that spread makes this one look like it was marvelous!Sara Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06058056977783867772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-37262014890399612552013-07-16T08:18:10.546+02:002013-07-16T08:18:10.546+02:00Just beautiful!Just beautiful!Parisbreakfastshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03558314043814894010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-76300170016534372372013-07-16T01:41:29.363+02:002013-07-16T01:41:29.363+02:00Looks like such a beautiful setting, and as for th...Looks like such a beautiful setting, and as for the oyster bar...and "Daft Punk" as their first song? FABULOUS<br />Congrats to the happy couple!<br />Slim Paleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09278593197402665506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-69853741192523120302013-07-15T18:16:58.767+02:002013-07-15T18:16:58.767+02:00A GRAND AFFAIR..............everyone looks so happ...A GRAND AFFAIR..............everyone looks so happy!Love the gal in the short skirt and FUR THROW????OR STOLE???<br />THRILLED YOU DID A SOLO!!!!!!!!<br />xxxLa Contessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01682902106545680159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-68845427297358774602013-07-14T22:07:54.536+02:002013-07-14T22:07:54.536+02:00It makes me wish I was there. Your comment on my l...It makes me wish I was there. Your comment on my last post was so special, so unexpected ... Thank you so much. It was a lovely compliment and the encouragement I needed. Sometimes I have so many doubts floating in my head ...Loreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12520908604580765632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2498719763759636773.post-51166513735679359132013-07-14T21:17:08.802+02:002013-07-14T21:17:08.802+02:00I love this from "penelopebianchi":
..a...I love this from "penelopebianchi":<br /><br />..and the "fun" (an endangered species all over the world at the moment!!!) Is so evident!"<br /><br /><br />---david terry<br /><br />david terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009130338123162371noreply@blogger.com